May 10, 2018

Recipe to Manifesting Your Desires

Update of blog originally published on Sept. 9, 2015

I believe every single person on Earth is brought here to share their unique gifts with the world to make it a more beautiful place. Our desire is the GPS to this zigzag road that seems confusing, daunting and overwhelming. But that gift has a responsibility. We have to follow it, no matter how hard, until that dream is realized.
But let’s be real. It’s hard and we all feel like giving up from time to time. Or perhaps you haven’t even begun the journey. This convo is a reoccurring theme in many of my circles and conversations. My hope is these words will lift and gift you to achieve, believe and receive. The secret is a mantra I repeat to myself and words that I share when friends feel like giving up: Trust + Action = Traction. Keep believing, take action and if it’s authentic to you – you’ll see and feel traction.
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Paulo Coelho, the author of one of my favorite books, “The Alchemist,” believes we all will face many challenges while pursuing our dreams. When the biggest challenges come and we face tests, “That’s the point at which most people give up,” he wrote. Coelho isn’t just all talk – he’s walking this journey. When he was in his forties, he was broke and almost out of hope. Something inside him needed to be expressed. The result was “The Alchemist,” a record-breaking, breathtaking literary treasure.

I recently found myself sharing this remarkable story about how Coelho’s book, “The Alchemist” – a story about Santiago, an Andalusian shepherd boy in search of his dream – went from selling two copies and being dropped by his publishing house to setting a Guinness World Record for being the most translated book by a living author.


Coelho told Oprah during a Super Soul Sunday interview that after cutting ties with his publishing house, he went to one of the biggest publishers in Brazil and told them that this would sell. They said, “OK” and the rest was history. According to Oprah.com, the book has sold more than 65 million copies, has been translated into more than 80 languages and has been on the New York Times bestseller list for more than 300 weeks.

Like a caterpillar that climbs into a tree and forms a cocoon, something bigger is guiding us. We just have to struggle and strengthen our wings as the butterfly emerges. How does this happen when the caterpillar has never done this before? We are guided by something bigger than ourselves.

In the prologue of “The Alchemist,” Coelho admits he doesn’t know the secret to the book's huge success. “All I know is that like Santiago the shepherd boy, we all need to be aware of our personal calling.... It’s God’s blessing,” Coelho wrote. “Whenever we do something that fills us with enthusiasm, we are following our [personal] legend.”

I believe that we all have a calling. That’s why we’re here breathing. The goal: to find your power so you can not only feel your potential, but go beyond it by using it to uplift and help others. There is no better gift you can give than the gift of you. Share your story, lift someone’s spirit and shift them forever. The challenges you face are here to guide you.

Take action: Three things you can do to keep the hope alive

1. Share your story. I’ve done keynotes for Coca-Cola, Rotary clubs and many other nonprofits about having the courage to tell your story. Many people have since come to me, crying, telling me they didn’t think their stories mattered. The truth is, everybody’s story matters. Have the courage to discover and share them. You give others permission to do the same. This raises compassion, leads to action and inspires hope and change for the storyteller and the listener. Don’t know what story to share yet? Share Coelho’s!

2. If your dream, business idea or project is authentically you, the people, the opportunities and signs will come. My mantra: Trust and action = traction.

3. Trust that the opportunities meant for you will open doors, while the doors that close aren’t meant for you, after all. See all obstacles as blessings and be grateful for what you have right now. Abundance will follow. The Dalai Lama said, “Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. Not everything that you desire will be necessarily good for you in the long run. If something just seems to not work out continually, in such a way that it seems almost like fate intervened, consider letting it go or coming back to it at another time. The Universe works in mysterious ways and should be trusted. Just be sure you are not mistaking your own failure as the Universe telling you something.”

What are your dreams and desires? How are you realizing them?

If you have any other action tips on how you’ve kept hope alive, please share in the comments section.

Onward and upward,
Toan

May 2, 2018

I Woke Up with $86,400 in my Account and I'm Sharing Some with Y'all

Morning y’all. I’m so excited. I woke up today with $86,400 in my bank account!

I am sharing $180 of it on you, yes you, because you need to hear this. How do I know you need to hear this? Well, you’re here reading this and watching the video it cost me $180 to make. My hope is that this $180 I spent on you is shared with others and is multiplied many times over into infinity.

Take a deep breath and watch this video about why I am sharing this precious $180 I will never get back...
I don’t often click on real-time posts that friends plug onto their Facebook walls, unless it’s something I feel will add value to my life. Recently, I saw this post on my timeline that made me stop typing and clicking – and made me pause, pensively:

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“Imagine there is a bank account that credits your account each morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day.

Every evening the bank deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out every cent?

Each of us has such a bank. It's name is TIME.

Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds.

Every night, it writes off whatever seconds you failed to invest in a good purpose.

It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft. Each day, it opens a new account for you. Each night, it burns the remains of the day.

If you fail to use the day's deposits, the loss is yours. There is no drawing against "tomorrow."

You must live in the present on today's deposits. Invest it in order to get the most health, happiness and success!

The clock is running! Make the most of today.

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Too often, I see many people working tirelessly, like a hamster running unconsciously on a wheel – only stopping when fatigue sets in or the master intervenes. For some, this master is the moment, or an opening into spiritual awakening – an illness, the loss of a loved one or a challenge that rocks them to the core.

For some, the goal is to attain wealth – big titles, paychecks and homes. However, oftentimes, it comes at a bigger cost that no amount of money can buy – your physical and mental health, as well as spiritual well-being.

In retirement, some people admitted their health deteriorated while on this hamster wheel of life and equally as tragic, missed out on special experiences with their spouses, children and friends to get to that BIG goal they thought would make them happy. Ironically, they’re now unsuccessfully trying to use the money they’ve earned to get their health back.

I’m not saying we shouldn’t work hard, celebrate accomplishments and buy nice things. I love me some fancy candles – Diptyque, Astier de Villatte and Cire Trudon are some of mi faves. I love to travel and love to eat my way around different cities my senses digest. I get it... this is all good stuff. However, it gets bad when we aren’t present and listening to our inner compass that points us to true happiness and joy. Whether it is a job that is making you sick or a relationship that is toxic, ain’t nobody got time for that. Wake up and shift your perspective. It’s a new day.

With the gift of 86,400 seconds, be present to the magic and share it with others. This is when we miss out on what really matters: spending time with family and friends, enjoying nature, giving back to our communities.

My gift to you is to shift your perspective. It will lift your spirits. Please pass the 180 seconds I shared with you through this video. It’s really worth more than $180 (wink).

So use up those 86,400 seconds wisely. The next second isn’t promised to any of us.

Love y’all. Be good.

Toan

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