December 13, 2018

Getting Through the Not-So-Holly-Jolly Holidays

“Have a holly, jolly Christmas,” so the song goes, and what people strive to do during “the best time of the year” on their perfectly curated Instagram posts. Not to be a Debbie Downer, but some of us are having a sad and mad Christmas, suffering from the loss of a loved one, job or other deeply personal thing. And guess, what? It’s OK to be real and feel all the feels. That’s just the truth. The truth can hurt, but it can also heal.

While I feel at peace with losing my Dad, aunt and two beloved grandmothers within a year’s time nearly two decades ago, every October, like the weather turning colder and leaves changing color, my happiness level falls and I feel the blues. I learned to embrace the range of emotions and grief. It’s OK to not feel guilty for feeling happy one moment and sad when a trigger, like a song or smell, brings you to tears because it reminds you of someone you lost.